Was pondering whether to venture out to a shopping centre. On checking it out on the internet I thought twice.
As I still have some weight to loose suppose I may as well not waste my time or money on clothes that obviously won’t fit.
Been advised to keep trying to buy things online.
I don’t want to run the risk of being served by people who want to make you feel sour; resentful, disappointed or angry. I’m not this type of personality so try to avoid tricky/dodgy types.
I used to have a market stall and made people look good/trendy or cool.
The whole objective of sales is repeat custom so if you make a customer feel sour, they aren’t going to go back.
You don’t want fancy words you don’t understand, you just want clothes that fit for whatever occasion you are shopping for.
Can’t believe someone has failed to grasp the basic essence of sales on such a large scale?
Found this advert as I’m sourcing 60’s media for a 60’s party next week.
This is maybe what the dodgy sales people want you to look like?
He needs a makeover not a makesilly face over?
His shirt is too small also ~ maybe men’s clothes were too small in those days also?
This reminded me of dianetics, when rich people try to bamboozle you with fancy words.
I got handed this book free in Manchester, and it changed my life also other peoples.
A tv program came on the tv at a similar time. I had a friend who was a junky who couldn’t stop laughing at it. Suppose not everyone has the capacity to grasp the logic. Maybe she shouldn’t have watched it as she was on drugs?
If the man in the advert took muscle relaxants instead of sour gum he may not look so uptight.
If you go to a shopping center and someone asks you if you are sour get them to explain what they mean.
If they throw another word you don’t understand ask them what they mean, if they get shirty with you, again ask them what they mean by the word you do not understand ~ comprendo!!
I didn’t join Scientology as I got what I needed from this book, various leaflets I had posted to me, and the tv program.
Am I disappointed there are no clothes that fit me in the shops
Obviously, I’m not happy about it, but I am coping fairly well.
Believe it or not, when I was little I hated fashion.
I wanted to wear pink, but my mum would dress me in navy and red or grey or make clothes for me.
I hated it.
That possibly made me sour?
fashion went pink for a bit, which I loved, then it was just for tall people, so I hated fashion again.
As most women are my height not sure why they use tall models for women’s fashion; it is like selling clothes for a baby on a toddler model.
Wouldn’t have brought this subject up if I hadn’t been asked.
At the moment I think I hate fashion.
The problem with this is fashion isn’t just for really tall ballroom dancers.
Before the current trend for just three sizes, fashion had revolutionised and was running as a business providing clothes that fitted everyone.
This business model makes sense as it meant you didn’t have men squashed up in tight suits that didn’t fit them or women having to wear their old clothes as they don’t want to wear tummy corsets for women 3 inches smaller than them, which end up being dangerous hip corsets on taller women.
Around this time I had counseling and discovered I was body dysmorphic. To help me cope with this I was counselled to get into shopping for fashion. It really helped with my problem and was a really good cure. Am really aware that not being able to purchase clothes at the moment isn’t helping my body dysmorphia mental health problem at all. As everyone keeps banging on about mental health and self-care it seems strange that at the same time, women like me who are body dysmorphic are being given no help to cure their mental health problem as they can’t go shopping. From my point of view it it saying I have to have mental health problems as I can’t self-help and do my counseling project. If it doesn’t mean that is someone aware they are making women mentally ill by not providing them clothes that fit.
Here lies more of my fear which goes deeper than sourness.
Exercise is another cure for mental health issues
Luckily another of my cures is exercise, which has also been eradicated after covid. This I am managing to do. It has been a ridiculously steep learning curve, but I have learned how to exercise at home by trial and error.
In the slimming calendar I am sharing my journey of how to exercise safely at home and get results, once it comes back properly will leave the slimming calendar online as it works and people can refer back to it as I originally planned it to be.
In the fashion calendar, I have started a new learning curve about fashion. I’m not a model or perfect but I do live in England which is cold and I need warm clothes most of the year round. By studying fashion hopefully, I will make headway like in slimming calendar in order to get clothes that fit back to average people of all age and sizes. Fashion shows are alright for unusually tall people, plus-sized people and petite people, but useless to average-size women and men, (men on average are tall, women on average are 5 ft 4), if rich people want to live in ball gowns and look down their snooty noses at normal people go for it, but don’t expect us to be interested. Some of us have money anyway. If clothes that fit come back a hideous ball gown with crystals badly designed all over it like an overembellished ice cream is the last thing I’d purchase. I actually have a textile design degree from when they were hard to get and we would of been thrown off the course for designing that. My best friend got laughed at for sticking wool on the inner tube of a toilet roll on a macrame plant pot holder, the tutor said it looked like Dougal.
Dougal from Magic Roundabout
When she went crying to the toilets I ran after her and supported her as a similar thing had happened to me. I did get better at what I was doing and she did.
It is called constructive criticism.
The hater crowd doesn’t really get this, but people who have survived it want quality control back and the only way to achieve high-quality retail is to learn how to self-criticise; it is a horrible process but it does work.
When you look back at old films you can only guess artistes must have gone through a similar process that young artistes won’t go through and thus they have lost out as they haven’t learned how to be the new John Hurt and so forth.
People aren’t going to pay hundreds of pounds for an artisan object d’art that has the quality of a first-year degree student’s failed art piece resembling wool stuck on an old plastic washing-up liquid bottle.
On the same note, the last T-shirt I managed to get was not only too small and tight, but the hem came undone after one wash. This is why I can’t even be bothered to try shopping anymore, what is the point? nothing will fit and it all falls apart anyway as it is shoddily made.
Can’t I just wait to run out and buy a floor-length ballgown in my size?
If fashion that fits everyone comes back no!!
I would actually just run out and buy some sportswear.
If I got down to my ideal weight, would still not buy a floor-length ballgown.
If that was the fashion I would hate it.
Coping with fashion you hate
One thing I wanted to discover at the beginning of COVID-19 is whatever the fashion is was there always a way of coping if you wanted to look good or stylish and not over the top or stupid.
For instance, we were told if you didn’t have a big bust, you couldn’t wear fashion in the 50s. I think someone has proved this was a lie and so in my parties I am travelling back in fashion time to find out how women coped in horrendous fashion times like now.
One problem at the minute is people my height could make their own clothes, (which I obviously hate from my childhood experience), but I can’t get a sewing machine or fabrics and the patterns aren’t for my body type anyway.
The only thing I can do is slim down into my old clothes, which other women like me are doing. The only problem here is they will only last so long before they wear out.
The frightening possibility here is a future where some women are dressed in ballgowns and others dressed in rags.
It almost seems like the clothes aren’t even for sale as they don’t post anything out to you?
If you think of this scenario on mass, wonder if people are getting hungry and angry.
For instance if you were in charge of a classroom and you made the children sour, say at
London Bridge
or
Salford
Matchstalk Men & Matchstalk Cats & Dogs ~ Top of The Pops 1978
It could get a bit nasty.
Interesting the real comments at London Bridge Academy
https://www.google.com/search?q=london+bridge+academy
I got called a beach at that school, apparently it is a compliment. Then I made the head teacher do an identity parade to punish the teanger who called me a beach. The head teacher begged me not to do it as he said I wouldn’t be going back there anyway would I? can’t remember what happened but I didn’t go back there. It was as badly run as the highstreet at the minute and too far to travel too anyway. To be honest if you could choose between a well behaved school and one with thug like teenagers swearing at you, which would you choose?
It wasn’t like you thought London Bridge would be on the toy.
London Bridge was in a film I was researching the other night. A lot of things make sense to me now about certain areas.
Surrey can even get nasty if it doesn’t get what it wants ~ wonder if things are kicking off there.
If you want people to spend their stash, you need to:
A) Give ’em what they want.
B) Send it out to them when they order it
or
C) Stock it in the retail outlets of the world
Temporary Solution instead of reacting to the Shitty Sour Narrative
If you are losing weight you could have at least 3 clothes sizes, mine are sizes 8, 10 and 12, in regulated sizings.
Size 10 is my in-between size so I’m hoping I have some size 10 clothes in storage. I won’t look like Miss world or a 5 foot 9 fashion model but hopefully, I will have something to wear when my leggings snap.
It would make sense to do this if there were clothes in the shops as transition fashion is a waste of money anyway.
I will look like an average woman who isn’t perfect but comfortable and not wearing rags.
Even when I hate fashion, I try and look presentable and make the best of myself.
Conclusion
When you hate fashion do the mad look.
By default, I have now got the mad woman look.
I hate this, but me looking normal and stylish, means I’m now out of fashion and look crazy.
Go figure!!!
Done it before.
In counselling, I was told I was 100 percent sane. Maybe there is hope in this sour response ~ hope so.
All I want is for everyone to get their lives back whatever they look like. I like life when the world flows, it is busy and everyone is out and about enjoying themselves.
It is so quiet and boring at the moment and everyone looks down trod and miserable.
Let’s hope they start making happy adverts again soon.
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